Parenting Resource
Introduction
I am writing this post to compile the information I have learned through school, personal research, and social media. When reading through the safety section I ask you to avoid thinking that any of these accidents couldn't happen to you. Thinking you are too responsible for accidents to happen means you will ignore the precautions and be more at risk. Parents who have lost children to these accidents are so often amazing, devoted, responsible parents who just needed information to change everything. Every piece of information shared here is to honor these families. This is not an exhaustive resource and will be updated as I continue to learn.
Safety:
Kick Counts: a way of paying attention to the well being of the baby while in late second trimester through birth, https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/articles/23497-kick-counts
Safe sleep: ABC's are the standard to maintain an absence of many causes of sleep related deaths.
Easy to read information :
https://www.theclairebearfoundation.org/safesleeptips
Extended research:
Bedsharing warning: Safe sleep 7 is a commonly referred to tactic to keep a child safe while bedsharing but it is not supported by research. However, if you choose to bedshare: do your research and take precautions. Sleep related deaths include SIDS as well as deaths caused by positional asphyxiation, rebreathing, suffocation, strangulation, overlay, and entrapment/ falling injuries. Based on much consideration, I firmly disagree with any messaging that bedsharing is a truly safe option but if you decide to then this source has good information. ABC is the standard because it gets rid of the risks mentioned, while the SS7 lessens the likelihood of those incidents occurring, but the risks are still present.
How to be safer while bedsharing:
https://pipandgrow.com/bed-sharing-safely/
Missing child at home: look in the most dangerous place first, not the most likely. Check any and all water, outside, and enclosed places (like dryers or deep freezers), then check their play room. In the dangerous places alone: seconds count; if they are in their play room then they will be fine alone for a few minutes.
Missing child in public: Call out their description and get everyone looking immediately. Keep walking around calling this out. The description will stop anyone possibly walking off, while also not giving anyone more information on your child like by calling their name. This could allow a predator to know that there is a child alone and their name to lure them away.
Ex: "Attention! I am looking for a 4 year old boy wearing a green dinosaur shirt, blue jeans, black tennis shoes, and brown hair. Please help me find him."
Car seat safety:
To avoid leaving a child in a car:
Something you can't forget like a shoe in the back, especially necessary when a routine is broken.
Water:
Infant Rescue Swimming: teaching infants to float and swim at a young age so they can protect themselves if they fall into open water
https://www.superheroswimacademy.com
Bright swim suits: Contrasting swim suit colors to the water are recommended for any swimming. If a child is below the surface in a blue swim suit it is harder to see them than with a contrasting pink, orange, red, neon, etc. See how different colors look in the water and where to find bright suits at the link below.
https://reviewed.usatoday.com/parenting/features/safest-colors-childrens-swimsuits
Not eating in life vests: I once heard the tip to take your child out of a life vest before eating as if they begin chocking and the Heimlich maneuver is needed, taking off the vest would take valuable seconds.
Bad products:
Amber teething necklaces: Amber teething necklaces are not safe or effective.
Bath toys that can't be opening and cleaned: Avoid bath products that can't be fully cleaned and dried. Mold can grow inside which can be dangerous.
https://www.amazon.com/Munchkin-CleanSqueeze-Mold-Free-Piece-Squirts/dp/B07895LGCD
Crib bumpers: Crib bumpers are not recommended as they break safe sleep rule A (alone), nothing added to the crib but a tight fitted sheet and pacifier with no attachments.
https://www.healthline.com/health/parenting/crib-bumper-safety#Why-are-crib-bumpers-unsafe
Dock a tot: The dock a tot is not safe for sleep.
Online advocates:
@shaynaraphael
@drfreehess
Parenting:
Parenting Styles: There are 4 parenting styles that can be described by how responsive and demanding they are. Authoritative, upper right hand corner, is considered by many to be the gold standard. This link provides more information on each style.
Attachment theory: There are multiple attachment styles which are largely responses to how they are treated by their caregivers, this effects later relationships.
https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-attachment-theory-2795337
Erikson's 8 stages of psychosocial development: This theory has 8 stages tied to approximate ages in which people focus on a particular contrast. For example, stage 1 is trust versus mistrust in infancy. This says that if an infants care needs are responded to during this early and vulnerable time in life they will grow up trusting of the world. If not, they grow up mistrusting.
https://www.simplypsychology.org/Erik-Erikson.html
ABCX model: This is a model for family stress in which factors like resources and perceptions can dictate the outcome of a family going through stress (deployment, divorce, addiction, loss, etc). The link discusses the theory in relation to military families.
https://militaryreach.auburn.edu/FamilyStoryDetails?resourceid=f58dcb51-bb9e-47a4-a72e-db8b99c18b41
Social learning theory: This theory says that children learn by watching others. If they see adults lashing out in anger, they will too. If they see adults cope positively, they will to.
https://www.verywellmind.com/social-learning-theory-2795074
Maslow hierarchy of needs: This theory says that humans naturally focus on their basic needs before their more advanced wants. For example, if someone feels, uncomfortable/ unsafe/ hungry they are going to struggle to focus on their friendships, self esteem, and dreams for self actualization. This theory supports making sure children are safe and comfortable before asking of them more.
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